Today I went to see my favorite Rheumatologist in the whole world. I asked him if I could use his name here and offered him the opportunity to take a gander at my little spot in cyberspace before agreeing or denying me use of his name. He said "What are you going to say about me?". I just raised my eyebrow and smiled. He said "Sure, OK." and laughed at me.
So let me introduce you to my Rheumatologist Dr. John Lavery. If you are looking for a Rheumatologist you can find his info here. I can't say enough good things about him and his practice.
I'll begin my endorsement by telling you about how I found him. I had been with my previous Rheumatologist for about 3 years. We had been through the standard path of care that most Dr's follow for PA. I was generally pleased with her level of care and her staff. The problem arose when I started needing stronger pain meds. I've been on pain meds for about 15 years now. I've managed to stay on minimal dosage of narcotics for all this time by switching medications occasionally. When one med stops working I go to another for 6 months or a year and then can go back to the original. For me vicodin is my staple med. Every few years I need a vicodin vacation and will switch to percocet for 6 months to a year. Then back to minimum dose of vicodin. At any rate my previous Dr had decided she was absolutely not doing any triple script prescriptions for anyone. Now I understand this decision as a way to protect her practice from abuse and suspicion, but for me continually raising my dosage for vicodin is just not an option. I am not going to be getting better, and raising the dosage leads to becoming immune to the higher dosage and so on and so on. Before long you are hooked on high dosage of vicodin and it's not effective as a pain diversion. In fact it becomes necessary to function because you are hooked. I called around to as many Rheumatologists as were in driving distance that were approved by my insurance. I made appointments with 4 of them that were accepting new patients. Dr. Lavery happened to be the first with an opening. I was ready to pay to interview each of these Dr's. I made it very clear I was making this appointment not for care, but to interview the Dr and get a feeling of how their practice is run.
I arrived at Dr. Lavery's office and explained again why I was there. He sat down with me and I explained my reason for looking for a new Dr. He understood my reasoning for wanting to maintain low dosage for pain meds. He told me he was agreeable to narcotic medications as long as I was being a productive member of society and it continued help me live a functioning life rather than impede my ability to function. We also discussed his willingness to try alternative therapies. I'm not exactly a new age bare foot hippy, but I do believe that there are holistic and natural remedies and aids that many Dr's will outright dismiss because it's not the cutting edge of science or not a medication. I decided before we were done that this was the Dr for me. He didn't make me feel like I was pharmaceutical shopping because I wanted to discuss narcotics. He didn't make me feel like an idiot because I was interested in alternative therapies. He didn't minimize my illness because I was under 40. The final thing that made me realize he was going to look out for my best interest was that when I went to pay for my visit he said there was no charge.
Dr. Lavery and I have been in this Dr/patient relationship for about 3 years now. I see him about every 3 months no matter what. We talk about how I'm doing on whatever therapy I am on. It is a discussion, not a dictation. When I decided that Remicade was more of a hindrance to my health than a help to my arthritis, he supported my decision to stop it. When I went through a phase of trying every vitamin suggested by every web site on PA he supported it and made suggestions on dosages. When I'm at the point that there really isn't anything more he can do at this time he's honest about that and focuses on making more comfortable rather than taking it as a personal failure.
I guess the reason for today's blog is to highlight the importance of that Dr/patient relationship. Take the time to find the right Dr for you. I know how expensive it is to pay co-pays, but it's worth every penny to pay to interview your Dr BEFORE you receive care. If you are with the wrong Dr for you, you are wasting money every time you go to them because you are not getting the best care for you. Also understand that your Dr works for you, not the other way around. Yes they are the expert, but you are paying them for a service. If you are not understanding what's going on with your care, are not getting the time you need to discuss options, or are not being taken seriously you are not with the right Dr for you. You can fire your Dr!
Finally if Dr. Lavery or his staff ever stumble across this, THANK YOU! Thank you for being an amazing group of people and for providing awesome care for me every time.